Old advice: "Let him fail. Don't do his laundry." Updated reality: He will wear dirty clothes and smell. He does not care. Updated Tactic: Switch to earned privileges. Nothing is a right. Wifi, electricity in the bedroom, noise-canceling headphones—these are commodities he earns through baseline civility.
In Jodi’s original work, she admitted to yelling back. The updated rule is Strategic Indifference. jodiwest jodi west my son is out of control updated
One major update since Jodi West’s original posts is the understanding of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) , a profile of autism often mistaken for defiance. If your son is "out of control" to the point of breaking walls or self-harming, stop looking for parenting tips. You need a neuropsychologist. The updated search for parents should be: Is he bad, or is he disabled? Old advice: "Let him fail