“You will be disciplined for anything that upsets me.”
Problem: This is emotional abuse, not structure.
UPD Fix: Rules must be specific, measurable, and known in advance.

Early FLR DD forums demanded perfection. New research on habit formation (and basic human psychology) shows that perfectionism destroys trust. The updated model allows for “grace days” — one day per week where minor infractions are logged but not disciplined, creating space for human error.

Discipline without ritual feels like violence. discipline with ritual feels like care. An UPD should include clear steps: